In doing so we show them our respect and appreciation. When children choose to do something, we shouldn’t to restrain their thoughts and behaviors and force our own adult-like perspectives onto them. 

On the contrary, we should be more supportive and encourage our children to try, feel and think on their own. At the same time, we should teach them never to be afraid of failure.

The experience and feeling of finishing something is very important for our children to grow up healthily, develop good virtues and become self-driven.

Any decisions made by children themselves will make them consciously work harder for their goals in the future.

Whenever our children make certain decisions, we should offer them our support and encouragement.

If our children are too hesitant when faced with various choices, we should encourage them to be braver and make their own decision, telling them clearly: “You should make the decision based on your own judgment.”

As long as those choices will not have a serious negative effect on a child’s future, it doesn’t matter if our children make an unwise decision.

During the process of making a decision, even an unwise one, they will learn valuable lessons from their experiences, which will help lay a solid foundation for their future growth. 

As parents, we all expect our children to be able to make their own choices.

In this respect, we should follow the idea of “The Six Emancipations,” put forward by Tao Xingzhi, a famous educator.

The Six Emancipations are the emancipation of mind, the emancipation of hands, the emancipation of eyes, the emancipation of mouth, the emancipation of space and the emancipation of time.

We should allow our children to relax their minds and bodies early on, learning to do their own things and think positively when they are in difficulties.

As long as our children enjoy themselves and participate actively in finishing their own things, they will develop their judgment and become more independent.

In this way, they will become more capable of making the right choices and decisions and gain control of their own life.