Ways of Dealing with Tantrums II



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Tips to handle tantrums:

Sometimes tantrums happen, no matter what you do to avoid them. Here are some tips to handle your child’s tantrums;


▪ Stay calm: Take a moment for yourself if you need to. If you get angry, it’ll make the situation harder for both you and your child.

If you need to speak to your child, keep your voice calm and address the child slowly and with love.




▪ Wait out the tantrum: Stay close to your child so he knows you’re there. But don’t try to reason with him or distract him.

Your child will not understand anything if you try to talk with him when he is in the fit of a tantrum.

▪ Acknowledge your child’s difficult feelings: Expressing themselves, and how they are feeling at times can be difficult for young children. Therefore, helping them to understand and recognize their own feelings can be very helpful for them.

For example, if your toddler suddenly has an outburst of a tantrum as she is tired after playing for a long time. She is unable to express it, then comfort your child by saying ‘I know you are unhappy because you’re tired, it’s okay. We are going back home to take some rest’





▪ Be consistent and calm in your approach: This means that if you sometimes give your child what she wants when she has tantrums and you sometimes don’t, the problem could get worse.

For example, if your child has a tantrum because you say no to buying her chocolate. You get embarrassed by the thought what will people watching you say? And you give up and buy the chocolate, this rewards the tantrum.

Shouting and pleading with your child when she has tantrums can be a reward because it gives your child attention.



▪ Take charge: As parents at the time, you need to be firm. If the tantrums happen because your child wants something, don’t give him what he wants always. If your child doesn’t want to do something, use your judgment.

For example, if your child doesn’t want to get out of the bath, it might be safer to drain all the water out first from the bathtub and then lift her out, for her safety.


Coping with tantrums:

Dealing with tantrums can be very draining and stressful. Here are some more ideas for staying calm;

▪ Develop a strategy for tantrums. Have a clear plan for how you’ll handle a tantrum in whatever situation.

▪ Accept that it takes time for change to happen. You need to understand that your little one is still growing and it will take time for the tantrums to go away forever.

It will take time for your child to learn self-regulation and he needs a lot of motivation from you as parents, rather than criticism.




▪ Accept that you can’t control your child’s emotions or behavior directly. You can only keep your child safe and guide his behavior so that tantrums are less likely to happen in the future.

▪ Please don’t think that your child is showing tantrums on purpose or checking your patience. Children don’t have tantrums deliberately!

▪ If other people give you an odd look, when your child shows tantrums in a public area, just ignore them.

Just think they’ve never understood young kids properly or it’s been so long since they had a young child that they’ve forgotten what it’s like to one!



Enjoy parenting, cherish each and every moment of your kid's development.

Help them in their difficult times through your understanding, love and lots of care.

Remember, your child’s childhood memories are precious and one of the most priceless treasures of you.

Once childhood passes away it will never come back. So don’t panic and appreciate not only the moments of laughter and fun but also times when your child may act or show difficult behavior!




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